Some creams have the mushrooms, some have citrus, some have anti yada yada, it really is next to impossible to decided which one of the many anti wrinkle face creams is the right on to try. Honestly, all of the wrinkle creams that were on the market last year have now all been replaced by new and improved formulas or new key ingredients. How do you chose? I decided that I was just going to try the first cream that seemed to deal with the type of issues that I was having with my skin. We shall see if the years just melt away…

My grandmother used it and so did my mom. An over the counter anti wrinkle face cream that has been around for decades. These two women had the most beautiful, soft, dewey looking skin. Now I am at an age where I to am using it everyday. With any luck I will have the same terrific results from this cream and I too will age gracefully. My grandmother looked great right up into her late 90’s. Can you imagine having beautiful skin into you late 90’s? A girl can dream and use a good, tried and true anti wrinkle cream.

Changing the Paradigms in your life is based on eleven basic principals. These principals work together simultaneously and are interconnected, yet separate.

• You Create Your Own Reality:

-Your beliefs and subsequent feelings Create Your Reality.

-Your Beliefs Come Before Your Experiences.

-Thoughts Come Before Feelings.

-Feelings Follow Thoughts.

-All Feelings are created by Thoughts/Beliefs

• The Future Creates the Present:

-You can change and improve today by changing your tomorrow

-No Pain, No Gain = To gain you must work into the pain.

-Your Future is Filled With Your Past, Until You consciously Create a New Future

-To create a New Future you need to change your beliefs.

• All Time is Simultaneous

-All things and possibilities, past, present and future exist right now.

-How you feel, perceive, believe is based on the past, which created the present and which will create the future.

• Your Life is a Holographic Reflection of Your Current Beliefs.

-Listen to the whispers and you won’t have to hear the screams.

-Life is constantly Showing You What You Believe and What You Need to Change to Create a different paradigm/future.

• All Emotions Are Good, From Love to Hate, Sadness to Joy:

-Suppressing, depressing, or being dishonest is what makes feelings seem bad.

-Honestly Feeling and Expressing Feelings Makes One Powerful and Good.

• There Are Two Ways to Get to Know Another Person

-We get to know another through Love or Through Pain. Which are you using?

• We Have Many Facets to our Personality.

-Denying and suppressing these facets is what creates disorders.

-Honoring our Personality involves acknowledging, accepting and enjoying these facets.

-When we discover a facet of our personality is causing discomfort or doesn’t serve us well, we can change that facet.

• Your Inner Child and Adolescent Are Real.

-All time is simultaneous, all experiences exist right now.

-The Inner Child/Adolescent wants to be loved, safe and happy.

-You are the only one who can give your Inner Child/Adolescent love, safety and happiness.

-Love, Safety and Happiness is an inside job.

• An Empowering Question to ask oneself in every situation and every conversation:

-What Do I Want?

• Important Tools and Attitudes:

-Enjoy Being A Beginner

-Pay Attention to Your BreathingShallow breathing slows down brain function/thought process, thus causing lack of clarity, creativity and resourceful ideas.

-Be CuriousCuriosity fosters creativity

• Be Gentle With Yourself, Focus on Forgiveness and Love.

-Judgment and criticism thwarts clarity, creativity, ideas and empowerment.

-Positive reinforcement fosters clarity, creativity, ideas and empowerment.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, author, international speaker and inspirational leader, empowers people to view life’s challenges as an opportunity for Personal/Professional Growth and Spiritual Awakening. http://www.drdorothy.net

We are a learning society. We spend many years and countless hours learning things in school, taking refresher courses, pursuing post-graduate level course work, and internet classes. Yet, when someone does not succeed, it is a truly enlightened individual that remembers to label it for what it is … a learning experience. People that are able to recognize this when it shows up in their own lives are able to use it to their advantage. If fact, they are typically very successful because they possess a “willingness to fail”. They are able to look at what most would consider a failure, as a means to get to their final destination. Just because they go off-track temporarily does not mean they are not even closer to their target. It is simply targeting, realigning, and targeting again until whatever they are after is achieved.

It is often said that children can be cruel, but it is adults that are cruel. Adults would never look at a young child attempting something and label that child a failure. They would say “Aww, Sally that’s okay, that was a good try, you’ll get it next time!” They might even remark to another adult that it’s so wonderful to see how far Sally has come over the past few weeks. As adults we forget that life is a constant growth process. We are always capable of learning no matter how old we are, and we should continue to take risks. We should never be fearful of failure because failure is just another form of constructive criticism. Why is it constructive criticism? Because criticism that fosters lessons and growth that are expressed in a non-threatening manner is constructive. It is the only form of criticism that is in alignment with the universe, and positive self-talk is the best way to approach our endeavors.

If fear of failure is keeping you from attempting something you long to do, ask yourself why you are letting it worry you. Is not taking a chance by doing something, much more courageous than doing nothing at all? If everyone thought of failure as a major obstacle, we would not have the technological advancements that we currently so accustomed to. How many times did Sir Isaac Newton have to be bonked on the head before he made sense of the Law of Gravity? What about Benjamin Franklin and his kite, or scientists and their cures and vaccines? The point is we would still be in the Dark Ages, if various inventors, scientists and others had refused to step out of their comfort zones and dare to take a chance at failure. Isn’t it time you made your mark?

Failure is just one step in the right direction to the ultimate goal of growth and success. Don’t be afraid to try new things, stretch beyond your comfortable limits and stray off-course. The worse that can happen is that you’ll fail, learn from that instance and have to try something new. So, dust off those rollerblades, go take that snowboarding lesson, or go sign up for that class, life is too short to play it safe all the time. Go fail, er I mean learn!

Eva Gregory, master coach, speaker and author of The Feel Good Guide To Prosperity, http://www.feelgoodguide.com, has instructed thousands on the Laws of Attraction in person, on the radio and in dozens of teleconference training seminars and programs. She is the author of several books and e-books and has co-developed several telephone-based and internet-based training courses on the Laws of Attraction. Her most popular program to date is her Leading Edge Living One Year Success Program. (http://www.leadingedgecoaching.com/Living/index.shtml) Eva is regularly featured on radio and in the media and is a recognized authority on the Laws of Attraction. To learn more about her products and services, visit Leading Edge Coaching, http://www.leadingedgecoching.com. NOTE: You’re welcome to “reprint” this article online as long as it remains complete and unaltered (including the “about the author” info at the end), and you send a copy of your reprint to eva@coacheva.com.

The decisions we make everyday have a big impact on where we are in life, both spiritually and physically. Often these decisions are the ’safe’ choices. People don’t often venture too far off from familiar paths or too far out of their comfort zones and challenge themselves. As Aristotle the great Greek philosopher said, “Man perpetuates the familiar,” and especially teens. The obvious reason not wanting to appear different than their friends. They are afraid of being teased or ostracized from their peer group if they venture too far. They rather let opportunities pass them by than be shunned by the group that helpes define them.

Teenagers do you find yourself in a rut? If so, be honest with yourself and determine why. Are your friends holding you back from venturing forth? Are you concerned about what they might say? If they are true friends they will be the first to encourage you, if they don’t, ask yourself, then ask them why. The answer you arrive at should indicate to you whether they are a true friend. Odds are they will be encouraging and perhaps follow your lead. You will have then become a trend setter. Be bold and rise above the crowd. Start immediately. All progress starts but with a single step.

Parents help your teen with gentle encouragement. Perhaps post notes on their pillow or in their lunch bag. Let them know how much you believe in them.
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Ann Marie Parisi is a senior at Cal Luteran University in Thousand Oaks, CA. She is also a published author.